#reviews that thing called tadhana (and why can we relate)

If there are different emotions that can be combined in one four-letter word, no contesting, it’s definitely L-O-V-E…It can make you happy, sad, mad or emo-less even.

If there’s one subject you can’t take away in a movie, song, literary piece or even art, that is…YES you saw it, L-O-V-E…Fine, we got action or horror movies, but so long as there is a human being in that movie and there are connections, even if it’s just for a minute or the entire film, LOVE comes in the picture. Cliche or cheesy as it may sound, but it is simply because LOVE is what makes this world go round.

No pretensions, but I guess for the regular readers of this blog would notice, I seldom talk about topics related to LOVE in the relationship perspective and all its cheesiness. Not because I hate it, but simply because I’m just a random person who can talk about various things, not just all about LOVE. In fact, truth be told now, I’ve experienced the joys and pains out of love — being in relationships, close to relationships and losing them too. So in a nutshell, you who may be reading this now, I too have my share in the LOVE-sphere.

Anyway, where is this heading to? There’s a movie currently getting raves or positive reviews in the social media sites. It was actually one of the entries in a local movie festival here months ago. From the festival to the big screen viewed by the masses, to this date, the positive remarks keep coming.

A story about two people who met at an airport, headed back home and embarked on a road trip in the process of healing their broken hearts. The movie, That Thing Called Tadhana, may seem to look like movies with travel-themed settings, but of course, this has got that Pinoy flava and twists. In as much as I would want to tell the plot of this story, but I don’t want to be thrown tomatoes at, cause fellow readers might say I’m such a spoiler…hehe. So for everybody’s sake (who’ve watched and will still watch this), let’s put it this way…Why or how can we relate to this movie?

1. Moving on and healing a broken heart has its stages…

Fine, an hour and 40 minutes movie won’t be able to trim down how, but this movie shows you a way or two how we try our best to move on or heal from getting brokenhearted. And I’m sure, for those who have experienced break-ups from relationships, there is at least one Mace or Anthony way you’ve done before you have finally said to yourself that you have truly moved on (Mace and Anthony are the lead characters’ names po ha…played by Angelica Panganiban and JM De Guzman, respectively).

2. Travels or getaways…

Admit it or not, majority of those who started traveling at their adult phase would say they initiated it as a way of mending a broken heart or a way to start all over. Again, I rarely talk about my lovelife aspect (let’s have that on a separate post, shall we? haha). I would just like to admittedly say I was one of those and related a bit in this movie. The only exception? I traveled not with a random good-looking, nice stranger to heal this broken heart back then (LOL!). I traveled with my sister for a quick getaway and realized there’s life after the breakup.

Sometimes, the pressures and pains in life aren’t easy to tolerate, so rather than sulking in one corner for a long time (which I hope you don’t end up on a bad note…no pun intended), better get a quick escape and be refreshed in a place not so common to you everyday. This movie has literally and figuratively answered somehow the Whitney Houston song, “Where Do Broken Hearts Go”. From getaways, we unload our baggage one at a time till we feel a little lighter than usual to accept new loads.

3. Cheesiness minus the vomit…

I remember a fellow fangirl from overseas told me that Filipinos are really loving and romantic people. She said that it even manifests in movie themes and songs.

Some won’t believe me, but I notice that not all Filipinos are the same who have the idea or concept of cheesy / romantic as clingy / PDA (public display of affection). In fact, there are running jokes or ridicules of feeling to vomit cause of too much PDA (nakakasuka o nakakauta sa sobrang PDA).

Sorry to burst the bubble of folks who might be thinking this movie is like the modern romantic movies, wherein kisses and love-making is a must. Save your thoughts for Mr Grey…hehe. This movie is one of those who have proven you don’t need to incorporate those stuff to make the viewers feel there is love going on. No need to be too touchy just to feel the connection…The conversations and the stares give you the implications of where their emotions are heading to. No one would feel the “echhhh” nor the “get a room” reaction. It goes to show that love can be felt and experienced even in it’s simplest forms…

and lastly, 4. the simple things and the throwback moments

From Whitney Houston to belting out in the videoke, from bus trip hits and stopovers — it was the little things and lines. We might not be able to remember every single part of this movie, but definitely, there will be a thing or two that we will always remember eventually make us smile or get teary eyed at.

Majority of us believe in fate, especially when we speak of the four letter word. Majority have this connotation that in this world, there is one that is fated to love us for the rest of our lives. If you aren’t, I think you maybe reading the wrong post (LOL!). For us Filipinos, we call it in Tagalog as “tadhana”. Excuse me as I need to say it in my native tongue, in Tagalog, “marami ang naniniwala na may nakatadhana para sa’tin…pero ang tanong, hinahanap ba ito o kusang dumadating o pinaghihirapan?”. The answer to my question may not be 100% answered in this movie, but it makes you realize that love ain’t just butterflies in the stomach. It may be lead to pain because of how or why we love a person. The most important thing though are two things: the blessings of loving and being loved, and the hope and faith of being loved again (after heartaches). In a nutshell, this movie is worth your money and time…This is more than a plain ok remark for me…

So I know, the Valentine’s fever is still with some of my folks here, I won’t waste your time much longer…Love is meant to be shared and given, as we receive it. Continue to spread the love in whatever aspect of love that is, everyday. Who knows from spreading that love to others, one might reciprocate it to you and eventually, he might be (what most say) the one…

Happy Hearts’ Day!

#throwback2014 and #movingforward2015

We are still on a high from the Pope’s visit and since it’s still the start of the year for us, here I am sharing you a throwback of the year that was, 2014 and a little bit of deets for 2015. Generally, 2014 was a fair year for me. There had been some low points, in fact very low points. However, I consider them more as lessons learned in my life now and ways to look forward to the brighter side of life. There were also highs that are keeping me at pace and inspired to keep going too. People, relationships and faith mattered and will matter some more this 2015…

Last 2013, I shared my influential folks. For 2014, allow me to share this time what stuff contributed and symbolized the year that was…

1. make up kit

Ohhhh yes!!! Friends who grew up with me for years would definitely attest that I’m a low maintenance kind of person when we talk about vanity or physical features. Mainly because I’d rather waste my time and money for more relevant stuff and I’ve had that mentality of “better-be-seen-appreciated-loved-of-my-natural-looks”. But thru time, I’ve come to open myself to the reality that sometimes, we have to look good, stand out and make ourselves prep up especially for social events like parties and weddings. Thanks to my mom and sister who never gave up in pushing me, I have invested late 2013 to buy key pieces for make-up as a Christmas gift for myself. And last 2014, they somehow helped me in various events I attended to, especially during a fellow fangirl’s wedding — Kreng and her hubby, Robbi. May of the said year, it was Davao 2.0 for me but this time with my fellow fangirls for Kreng’s wedding. I must say, my make-up kit helped cause I didn’t have to go thru the hands of a make-up artist, not failing to forget to thank my fellow choir member who gave our choirmates a make-up tutorial session. Somehow, before I said my slight toodles to chorale singing, I learned how to do the basics on my own.

2. tank tops and printed pants

Let me simplify this — I am more into prints! Well, I am versatile when it comes to outfits. I also have plain colored outfits, but definitely, my closet has a bunch of prints, which includes printed pants and skirts. Hmmm…I don’t follow trends and usually, I just go with my instincts, what will make me not so common and not too overboard. Overall, I’m more into looking and feeling good enough — not sacrificing comfort and how you should look for the occasion. These outfits symbolize my way of embracing life’s uniqueness for each other and so for me too. Prints allow me to see life minus boredom, a little crazy in a positive way. In addition, these kind of clothing is my constant reminder not to stop my passions and my travel pursuits (they’re light and don’t make me travel with an overweight luggage…hehe).

from one of my posts: Skybridge at the 41st floor (damnnn...just covering up the fear *nailbites* hehe)

from one of my posts: Skybridge at the 41st floor (damnnn…just covering up the fear *nailbites* hehe)

3. juice cleanse bottle

I must admit, turning on your 30’s makes you conscious on the health aspect. After all the partying and I-dont-care-what-I-eat-and-drink during the teens and 20’s, it is just right to get make my body breathe or exhale the not-so-good stuff and intake what my body needs. There have been a lot of diets and physical activities in the market to keep you fit, but one of those that a bunch of Filipinos have gotten into last 2014 was the juicing diet. So many brands are out there in the social networks, selling them either just for one bottle consumption or for a day / few days cleansing. 2014 was my partial health conscious year. From doing a few exercises with colleagues or solo at home to eating at restos serving healthy good food, I just really had a different perspective on my health. Adding to it was making my friends and family join in the idea or fun sometimes. Sad to say, I didn’t shed pounds to achieve my target weight, but getting less sickly and no hospitalization for myself last 2014 is already an achievement. I hope I could target it this time, let’s see how much it’ll take me…hehe

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4. MH / plane tickets

Being an occasional wanderer (call it weird, I don’t care), airports and plane tickets bring heaps of joy to my heart. I am sure (and hope) that many of us by now realize and experience that you don’t have to be a millionaire to travel. I’ve had road trips and two plane trips last 2014. Due to some personal and family circumstances, it wasn’t like how much my friends or acquaintances have had, but to me they were all life changing and worth while.

via instagram -- @therandompinay

via instagram — @therandompinay

However, last 2014 was also the year of a few mishaps and disappointments in the aviation industry — plane accidents and unsystematic bookings and flight schedule issues (this last one is especially here in PH). 2014 was saddening for me especially for what happened to two Malaysian Airlines planes during the mid of the year and a sudden plane crash of Air Asia before the New Year’s 2015. Just to share, I had the experience of flying to Malaysia via Malaysia Airlines with my mom years ago, so there was a piece of us (me and my mom) that was heartbroken when we found out of those news. But amidst the mishaps, I won’t stop flying to destinations where I might be heading. It may be creepy and scary to die in a plane crash, but as what we always say, we only live once, so I’m not gonna take out the wanderlust in me. Hopefully, 2015 will spring better heights for the aviation industry — perhaps, new discoveries and technologies to minimize such incidents and better systems to minimize complaints and headaches of passengers (paging Cebu Pacific and PAL!!!).

5. umbrella

Umbrellas remind me more of the rain than the unbearable heat. No one can compare the massive typhoon Yolanda so far, but 2014 was a year of unexpected rainfalls and storms in the country. Some places unexpectedly felt the floods or landslides even. We know that it’s due to the climate change, but somehow, we can still pacify Mother Earth by doing our own little shares to make this world still conducive for our future kids. It also is symbolical for protection so one can still go on walking while raining. Hardships and disappointments will be there in life, but sometimes, we just have to allow a little protection (or a little help) but still head on.

6. MRT card

Ok!!! I rarely ride the MRT now, thanks to shuttle vehicles (vehicles that can bring you from one point to another) and that my working area is near my home now. But it would be hypocrisy to say that MRT ain’t beneficial. This transit for me is a mix of good and not so good hits for me. I don’t ride the MRT daily, but last 2014, it became an essential transit for me to the happiest place on earth venue that opened up myself to realities and the goodness of life — The Feast PICC. For me to be able to attend there and get on time, I would need to ride the transit rather than riding the bus that’ll take me…forever. Beneficial in a way, indeed, but that ain’t always the case especially last 2014 when MRT was put on hot waters. Consistently there were delays on trips, due to the dysfunctional trains at times and even some suicidal attempts (ain’t funny though I know). The worst so far happened last 2014 when one of the trains smashed the barrier in the end station of MRT, even hitting vehicles and causing injuries to the passengers. MRT was even audited and got a failing mark last year.

On a little upside (that many see as a downside), they are currently doing little changes including a fare increase (like WTF after x # of years guys! for the longest time, the government subsidized the costs). I hope in the next few months we could feel better changes in their system and trains. We deserve what we pay for…but let’s do our share — adjust our costs and our discipline too ha (wag pasaway!!!).

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7. monopod

Being a traveler for years, one of those I learned to love in the process is traveling solo. How come? You’ll find out soon. But before one of the dilemmas of solo travelers is having a picture of himself with the scenery without looking like a pop-out head only or without so much arms…

Thanks to what is being sold out in the market called the “selfie stick” (also known as monopods), solo traveling is made a little bit convenient just like my trip last year to Malaysia. After a 6 year hiatus and a few years of promises to revisit, I finally made it in time even for a holiday they call Merdeka. Though I was accompanied by my very good and gracious friends, Mia and Lina, it won’t be nice for me if all the photos are just solo. The monopod was a life saver. Though some were giving the looks (like jagger? haha) of what is she seriously doing for that stick and camera, well, we didn’t care at all. Being a citizen of a country that is soooo hyped with social media and posing for pictures, I guess it is a good investment for me who travels once in a while (and alone even sometimes). Besides, I’m not the only one who did selfies ‘ayt? Celebrities were also in the hype for selfies, posted in their social networks (eg. Facebook, Instagram and Twitter).

As what I said in one of my photos in FB, “I don’t know who exactly invented the monopod, but he is definitely one selfie addict…” :p

8. coloring materials and crafts stuff

Arts and crafts wouldn’t have flourished if life wasn’t introduced in colors. Just like music, colors add zest to one’s life and lead to symbolize one’s personality. 2014 was the year when crafts and lettering by hand (via calligraphy) flourished especially here in the metro. The ignored calligraphy pens, sign pens and drawing pads in supplies’ stores or bookstores were now given much attention by people (young and old, men and women). You can see of their works on Instagram and Pinterest and some even offer workshops to enhance your love for the arts or make you discover new hobbies and skills.

In my case, coloring materials and other crafts stuff lead me to two effects: rebuilding my love for crafts and made me move on from the heartache last year. College years when I started doing crafts or artsy fartsy stuff, so it’s refreshing for me to see I’m not alone in the journey that many find it weird or waste of time years back. As for the heartache, don’t get me wrong. It was my way to move on from so much stress I had during the last months of the year, when my dad was hospitalized. While he was on his road to recovery physically, I was also doing my own ways to recover — apart from being with friends and officemates, books and crafts became my avenue to get away with the pain.

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9. smart phone (mobile phone)

Who wouldn’t live without it, once you have it? Maybe we’ll get a rare count. Surprisingly, there have been random days I forget my mobile phone at home and yesss…I am able to survive those days without it. I am not sure though if I can live without it for a few straight days or weeks. Somehow, this new piece of technology is indeed helpful — in times of emergencies and stress, in times of communicating in between distances, in times we need to be informed. For so many times, I have been saved by this little piece of stuff — during work, during my travels, during emergencies.

At the end of the day, I hope and pray we all don’t get engulfed by the little gadget and still value the real stuff — interrelationships with other people, face to face, communicating with God. Regardless of brand, let’s have the thought — less on materials and more on people.

10. rosary

I never leave the house without one in my bag or purse. Not because I want to brag about the topic on religion (cause I’d rather embrace all kinds of beliefs every person in this world has…no to hate ^_^), but because this is my constant companion and reminder that the Lord is always with me and of the power of prayers.

2014 was a year for me of rekindling my life to God. I can’t exactly say I turned away and became a rebel of sorts. What I mean in saying this was the past few years were my weak moments. I pray, I attend Mass but because they were obligations, not because I do it for loving God and believing in His power and grace for me, my family and other people. It was this year that I was hit to realize prayers can move, not just mountains, moreover, ourselves. It even came to points where I know I am praying the rosary, but I can’t say the words…I just end up crying…No words, the tears were my prayers…

via instagram -- @therandompinay

via instagram — @therandompinay

Everything that happened in 2014 not only made me learn, but made me change my perspectives….These and other thoughts are what’s making me motivated to head on 2015, little by little, to a better plight.

Here are just a few highlights of what transpired last 2014 (aside from the barest and common essentials…hehe):

1. Introduced and attending the Feast PICC

2. Trips here and there: Zambales (with colleagues); Rizal (teambuilding with colleagues) Davao (with fangirls) and Malaysia (s0lo trip)

3. weddings: The Rocket Weds (Robbi and Kricket) in Davao

4. contests: won via Instagram — #BeautyBeforeIDo (c/o Bianca Gonzalez-Intal and Facial Care); L’Indochine x Marie Lozano

5. seminars / conferences: Proj Management (at work); iCon2014 (with Marvin Germo, Randell Tiongson, et al); Stock Market Basics (c/o COL Financial and Bro Bo Sanchez)

And as for my #movingforward2015, allow me to share a few thoughts I have in mind to reset or to start with:

1. Health: a decent med check-up; reset to have a fitness activity; get some proper zzZZz; no rice for dinner (YIKES!!! let’s see if I can keep it up for long…lol) and no softdrinks -__-

2. Finance: not just the basics, this time literate :) ; spend wisely *ISANG MALAKING EHEMMMM* ; more rakets (ATTENTION TO THIS GUYS, cause I would be needing some folks for this soon (FINALLY!)

3. Relationships: ample time with family; rekindling time with friends; meet new folks in circles; join a group or club; continue to keep the faith and live it *PUSH DAPAT ‘TO*

4. Career: — zipping my lips for this — posted just for a reminder…haha

5. Travels: local — 2 islands please; out of Pinas — one in SEA (not yet visited) and Seoul (na sana finally mapush na ^_^)

6. Self: learn new skills; revisit a craft or two to do; loving / appreciating self and learning to accept love from others…and lastly, a sum-up of things to do or work on, which I would rather call #therevampproject — FOR THOSE WHO HAVE SEEN MY TAG THIS ON MY SOCIAL NETWORKS, updates soon ^_^

And with that, I hope your year 2014 has been a memorable and learning curve to a better year ahead. Hope your 2015 is starting well and on track…

To all my family and friends who became blessings and lessons in my 2014, thank you so much and I look forward to have 2015 spent with you…To all my readers and followers (especially those I don’t have very close encounters with), thank you so much for your support in my passions and my tinkered posts and I look forward this time around to hear or see some of your thoughts too…To God, beyond words, thank you so much for everything…I look forward and open myself to the boundless and limitless blessings and I pray that your guidance to strengthen me to attain a better life for myself, my family and for my future…

#BlessedbythePope Just in Time

In a nation that struggles…

from their day to day living and sustenance…

from injustice and inferiority brought by the difference in socio-economic classes and educational levels…

from the plagues brought by corruption and other greed-related activities by some government leaders and employees…

from achieving peace and order as there are crimes and armed conflicts…

from being belittled or discriminated by some nations, whereas we Filipinos deserve a spot in this world with respect and acceptance…

from calamities, man made or natural, that lead to grief due to loss of lives and properties…

from people, especially the youth, who are forgetting the value of relationships, due to clinging too much on technology…

from keeping the faith, believing in God’s greatness and spreading goodwill towards others…

Reality bites…this is a part of a nation where I breathe and thrive…It ain’t easy, but certainly, it ain’t permanent…

The best part amidst these struggles are two things: we are still here surviving and we aren’t alone in this journey…

I was a young witness 20 years ago to a multitude of people praying together and keeping the faith with a man we could say, God’s ambassador to mankind — the Pope. 20 years later, the ambassador came back, in the form of Pope Francis with a main objective that he kept stressing during his stay — he came for the poor and the oppressed. Last 2013, the Philippines was heavily hit, especially in the Visayas area, of typhoon Yolanda causing mass loss of lives and property. Back then, Pope Francis was really eager to visit the country. Fast forward to this year, 2015, he was able to fulfill his bucket list. Apart from this, he came to send messages to make people rekindle their faith to the Lord. He came to send God’s message of love to all of us and share that love by doing good towards others and for the country.

Back when I was a student and watched Pope John Paul II during his visit here in the Philippines, I was moved seeing how a true leader must be. True enough, it helped me strengthen my faith and my dedication even to serving the Lord thru music. 20 years later, I have already given myself a break from serving in church. In addition, within those 20 years, my faith and beliefs were shaken and lapses due to frustrations, hardships and disappointments came over me. Just last year, I regained and refreshed myself spiritually, thanks to good influences I have of pushing me again to prayers and by attending The Feast Sunday sessions. Pope Francis’ visit made me see my life in a much better perspective, apart from where I started over again.

I never had a face to face personal encounter with Pope Francis, not even I had the chance to attend his concluding Mass nor wait for him like a fan on the streets in Manila. Thanks to technology, the television became my medium to see him up close and to hear his messages, God knows why. Despite that, my emotions weren’t half baked nor sugar coated. It passed thru the boob tube to our homes. Goosebumps were felt and tears welled up once in a while, from the moment he came down the Sri Lankan Airlines up to the wave he made before entering the Philippine Airlines that lead him back to Rome. Not because I treat him as a superstar or a celebrity, but somebody whom I can follow or live by, from his good examples and teachings.

He, just like any other priests only of higher post, mediates between God and His believers. The moment Pope Francis assumed seat as the Pope and head of Vatican, we learned things about him that truly made us Catholics see his humility and willingness to reunite and revamp the church. From commuting in doing his priestly activities to giving blessings and hugging the poor and sickly, to bringing his own black bag and not letting his guards bring it, simple gestures but it does make sense in a world that evolved from materialism and self-center living. He also teaches to make this world unite living in acceptance of differences by each and every human being and extending help to the needy and oppressed.

So in this nation of struggles…

we can always believe good things happen, if we will think, feel and do well towards others…

we are blessed with such natural resources and human resources that we can utilize to progress, if we will eradicate corruption, no matter how big or small…

we have the freedom to enjoy and to have fun, if we will only exercise that freedom with less abuse…

we have the Supreme Being who is always with us and even gave His only Son to be man and suffer just like us, if we will accept His love and blessings…

we can still be grateful cause our life isn’t always just sufferings, disappointments and hardships, if we will open ourselves to claiming those blessings and change our negative perspectives in life…

The Pope’s entire visit awakened my napping faith and dedication to God and to others. It wouldn’t take days to ultimately make me revamped, but the learning and small deeds could be a good start.

As I’ve said since Pope Francis visited, Thank You Pope Francis for giving your time and sharing God’s love to us thru you…Awesome sunshine, we will pray for you everyday. Please pray for our country, the Philippines and its people…In my heart and mind, your words will be my guiding light and reminder (when my bi***y attitude starts to surface) to live the simple yet happy and faithful life, and serve the Lord and His people in my own special ways…And Pope Francis, I believe you weren’t late to visit us…God intervened, you came in just in time…

my little doodlin letterin moment... #PopeFrancisPH

my little doodlin letterin moment… #PopeFrancisPH

Hanggang sa muli, Pope Francis…

I was indeed blessed and I hope you, my dear readers, were blessed and will continuously be blessed too…I hope that you will be able to live up Pope’s words not just for a day, a week or a month, but for the rest of your earthly lives…

#insights notes to Dear Self 2015

Dear Self of 2015,

It took me days to post my warmest welcome to you. The holidays engulfed my time for socializing and the much needed effing rest and relaxation…

365 days of 2014 passed and here we are — the world is welcoming you with open arms. Who would ever think that a lot of stuff happened in 525,600 minutes? It’s been a heck of roller coaster ride for me. Challenges took a toll in some aspects of my life, but the best part was I learned from each one of them, after all the shitty tear jerking. Surviving by the day wasn’t easy, but at the end of the day, they will all pass.

As everybody says, never dwell much on the past and that is what you must be doing head on…Let’s keep this sweet and less of a novel…Here’s what I’ll pass to you, not resolutions but maybe thoughts to keep in mind, regardless if they became blessings or lessons to me:

Hardships and disappointments will come at some point. It could cause you to feel bad, down or stressed. In fact, New Year’s Day doesn’t mean the hardships I had won’t be passed on to you this year. But, definitely, it ain’t gonna be permanent. Who knows, you might be able to get rid of them this year. But telling yourself to be a positive thinker won’t be enough. Believing and hoping aren’t the 100% ingredients to a better future or year ahead…You have to do something. You mustn’t settle.

When you look at the mirror, smile, accept who you are and your flaws, but don’t stop from there. I had some physical changes last year that made me look at the mirror and say “Why did I let myself look this way?” But after that, I stopped and realized, “Hey, we are all created different…There are ways how to make yourself better but still embracing the real you…”. Before the year ended, I took baby steps and in fact, fate and faith intervened. One of them was when I won in a contest to have a facial makeover (that never I imagined winning of and even meeting my favorite personality, Bianca Gonzalez-Intal). When people say “tumataba ka na (you’re getting fat)”, just ignore. Start doing things to make your physical self better…

I can say that we have survived for our daily sustenance (with a few simple pleasures) last year. But from the experience that dad got hospitalized and not knowing how to survive for the payments and other needs, I am passing to you the knowledge, hunger and passion to be financially literate…I started when I attended an investment seminar spearheaded by Marvin Germo and Randell Tiongson, followed by seminar on stocks c/o Bro Bo Sanchez…To top it all off, I had friends who constantly reminded me not to slack on handling finances…So dearie, this year you can do this! You must werrrrk it!

Lastly, I am sharing to you this year to be persistent and never stop praying, no matter how long it takes for you to see your dream or goals coming to life…No boyfriend for 2014? So what?! I enjoyed my year and learned much how capable I can be of various things. I know you can make a few starters and get back in the lurvveeee zone soon. Not yet in the country you really wanna be? So what?! Just be persistent to do things to reach your destination. It took me years to finally realize attending this happiest place on earth called The Feast, but it only took a short while to help me get back on my feet…It took me a while to realize that my faith and God never leaves me in my journeys and He never punishes nor hides blessings to His children…In fact, I was challenged much but I got some wondrous blessings that I will forever be grateful too. I could go on and on and on about this spiritual and emotional realizations, but what’s important is from the challenges I went thru, I never resorted to doing bad stuff against myself and others. What’s important is that year made me know what I really want, what I really want to do, what I really want to achieve and gain and above all, what I should really be doing towards fellowmen…

Much has been said, you already know what I mean…so make this year a better, SWEETER and more awesome than mine…You know the drill *wink*

Let me leave you with a very simple note I got from Bro. Bo Sanchez. “DON’T STOP AT SIX!” — So no matter what, keep praying and keep going, ‘ayt?!

Have an awesome year and to your family and friends too!

xoxo,

Self of 2014

Have you tried writing something to say to yourself? I just did…Hoping and praying that by next year I see this post, who knows, I might be writing a different story to myself already…Just a random thought to begin my year…Bottomline: let’s create new and better memories, enough of the b***craps of the past years…Just moving forward ^_^ Happy New Year dear readers!

#BeautyBeforeIDo with Facial Care Centre and Bianca Gonzalez

It’s no big secret here in the Philippines that tv personality-blogger-editor at large-advocate, Bianca Gonzalez is engaged and will be wed to basketball heartthrob, JC Intal, this December. Before her big “I Do” day, Facial Care Centre, her endorsed skin clinic treated her to an afternoon event with her friends from the Philippine press. And for an icing on the cake, they collaborated to give a pampering session for a few of Bianca’s followers on Instagram which was also called #BeautyBeforeIDo.

Being more into Instagram lately than in Facebook (for many better reasons and options…hehe), I sent an entry just taking the chance and opportunity if I could win.

A little background: My admiration for Bianca Gonzalez started during my teens, when she graced the pages of Seventeen PH magazine. A lot of models and media personalities have graced that magazine, but I’m the kind who doesn’t admire one of them just for looks or for being a good dresser. For me, it’s more of the total package — personality or attitude. From her, I learned to appreciate how I look, regardless from what others would say. I’m not mestiza and I don’t have the looks that could be launched in glossy fashion mags, but I’m sure I’m a person worth looking back at her self on the mirror. Thru time, I followed her on her blog and now on her social network accounts (and even the magazine she currently heads on as editor in chief). It’s the beauty, brains, her low-key attitude and simplicity, and her passion to contribute to better changes for this country are what made me continuously admire her and inspired me to at least do small changes too.

Majority of the entries were for their upcoming weddings or for their parents (to use the pamper prize). Of course, not failing to mention they wanted to meet Bianca in person. As for me, it was a different story. Since my dad got hospitalized until to this day he’s recovering, our whole family seems to have started all over — it’s like being a Freshman student in High School — regaining time with each other and friends, thanking each and every close folks we were meeting up, and even taking time to grow up from what made us stop and drain…So my entry went out like this…

my entry.... #fact

my entry…. #fact

To simply put it, this is a symbolical start to move and get going to fulfill my goals and dreams (not only for myself but for my family and others). If I couldn’t have been picked, I wouldn’t feel bad about it — just thinking somebody else deserving would be getting the prize…

But days after, I got the shock that awakened me — my entry was read and picked!!! Along with other winners, we all graced in the Facial Care Centre Eastwood Branch for the #BeautyBeforeIDo day…We have undergone the facial rejuvenating package. The facilities are not just aesthetically nice but very efficient too. Each patient has a separate room where the services are done for their privacy. I was lucky enough to be placed in the room overlooking the Eastwood area and then some.

Facial Care Centre Eastwood

Facial Care Centre Eastwood

The best part was the treatment itself. From what I learned from my fellow winners, the staff who does the treatment are nurses (pls correct me if I’m not right about this info ah…) so they know how to work on their patients lightly, with less and tolerable pain. Thanks to the staff assigned to me, Chacha, she made sure I was really pampered well even if it was just for more than an hour. I didn’t get out of that building red-faced…

before the pampering mode...

before the pampering mode…

after: messed up hair...but look ma', no red tomato face mode *smoooooth*

after: messed up hair…but look ma’, no red tomato face mode *smoooooth*

The event capped off with a quick chit chat and photo opts with no less than Ms Bianca Gonzalez…and at least I could say, I had one for the books!!!

Bianca with the winners --- photo c/o @facialcarectrph

Bianca with the winners — photo c/o @facialcarectrph

random elevator groupie...with the soon to be brides (ok...keep your words just in the head...lol)

random elevator groupie…with the soon to be brides (ok…keep your words just in the head…lol)

Apparently, I wasn’t able to talk much to her cause I got a bit starstruck…but I’m hoping and praying that wouldn’t be the last…

photo opt with Mrs. Bianca Gonzalez - Intal (yessss! let's claim that na...)

photo opt with Mrs. Bianca Gonzalez – Intal (yessss! let’s claim that na…)

Again, a BIG THANK YOU, Bianca and to Facial Care Centre for the awesome prize and experience. More power and to Bianca and hubby, JC Intal (who is actually my dad roots for during his Ateneo basketball days), Congrats and Best Wishes on your upcoming wedding!!!

As for me, this is the start…The Revamp very soon!!!

#BeautyBeforeIDo

#BeautyBeforeIDo

Cheers,

Calai

credits: group photo – Facial Care Centre Instagram Acct (@facialcarecentreph)

Deets: Facial Care Centre Eastwood – 30/F, MDC Building, E Rodriguez Ave, Quezon City (across Citibank Eastwood)

@iamsuperbianca – Bianca Gonzalez Instagram Account

#insights you’ll never know till it hits you…

I’m not much visible in the social media and on this site since mid September, due to a major priority — to take care of a family member…It has not been an easy ordeal, but we as a family are surviving one day at a time. As of today, I don’t have much courage to share the exact details of what happened. However, this post is a way for me to somehow release my emotions and thoughts, that maybe a few of my dear readers can relate to or can learn from.

Prevention or cure can be a hit or miss…

They say that an ounce of prevention is better than a pound of cure. Keep in mind though that no matter how much we prevent ourselves from getting sick, we aren’t superheroes not to get sick…What we are physically 10 years ago wouldn’t be the same 10 years fast forward. If your family doesn’t have any dreaded hereditary illness, it doesn’t excuse you from not getting sick. Well, thanks to modern technology which is God’s gift to mankind, there are illnesses that can be cured or treated. There are machines used for treatment and more doctors continue to specialize or hone their expertise to cure people. But, amidst technology flourishing in the field of medicine, what is prescribed or what cured one person can’t be applied to another person at times. At the end of the day, don’t self medicate and if in doubt, get a second or third opinion — tiresome and time-consuming, but what’s spending an hour or a week than going thru a time-consuming agony of pain due to your illness…

Health care, still not fun in my motherland…

Despite the promotions our major hospitals show about their facilities and the efforts our local health department give about wellness and healthy living, still the grueling truth remains. The country’s health care is disappointing and heartbreaking. Even when it comes to health care, there is a big separation with the various socio-economic classes. Treatments to illnesses, especially if major or critical, is achievable, unless you have so much moolahs or you have a health card (from being an employee or employee’s dependent). Yes, there are public or government hospitals for the less privileged, but the facilities aren’t good enough to cure. Adding to the dilemma are the stubborn, belittling treatment you would get from nurses or doctors in those kinds of hospitals. Fine, some would say “not all of them, Carla”…And believe me, I will go “yah right”.

During my father’s first confinement, we rushed him in the Emergency Room of two public hospitals (and I will state them here, it’s my blog anyway — Rizal Medical Center and Pasig City General Hospital) and all we got was crap — unaccommodating nurses, a freaking bitchy doctor (who happened to be gay — no offense to my gay friends…just so needing to emphasize that doctor) and a few follow-ups if my dad will still have to be checked that we ended up being ignored. It just so happened that time my dad’s health card wasn’t finalized yet, that’s why we brought him to those public hospitals. When it was all over, I just realized that for us it was annoying to see how our dad was treated, much more for those who really have no options or opportunities to be transferred to better hospitals — heartbreaking all the more…

Our country’s health care is a web of complications and root causes as to why it ain’t good at all…No wonder it has always been featured in documentaries…If this wouldn’t be fixed, sad to say, the next generations will degenerate amidst our 100 million population to date…Seems to me, making their countrymen healthy and useful for nation development ain’t our government’s concern…at all…

Drawing and draining strength from each other…

It’s been an eternal statement — “No man is an island…”. Indeed, we may not all be familiar to each other, but we will always find somebody whom we can relate to or share a part of our life with. And it’s during those times of trials that true friends and family will be revealed right smack at your face. Honestly, being raised with only another sibling plus “invisible” relatives (explain further: relatives that are there but you can’t rely or depend on them) isn’t easy and now I know what it feels like. But this trying time made us see how the four of us drew strength from each other — that even if you end up getting teary eyed of the pains and thoughts, there is a family ready to help and keep you optimistic, believing things will get better. And there is also what we call the extended family — your family beyond bloodlines and genes, the ones we call friends. There are lots of people who surround us, but it won’t be the same number of people who will surround you when you are at your worst. One by one, there will be some who will move inch by inch away from you. Some will just lurk and move back to you when you are all ok. Some would even think you might abuse them so better they inch away. Some would just be in lip service — but do you honestly need lip service to make you feel or live better? I guess the answer is a hell no…Apparently, this is a sad reality that everyone will have to face or maybe is facing right now.

The good news though is  you may not be like celebrities surrounded with much of their followers to support or to comfort you, but DEFINITELY, YOU WILL NEVER BE ALONE IN GETTING THRU IT…AND THAT THERE WILL BE FOLKS WHO WILL STAY TRUE

Take time to listen…and understand…

This made much sense to me in the weeks that my dad got confined. Most of the time (admit it or not), we would always prefer being the one heard, noticed or understood. For various personal reasons, that’s how it goes. But, how many times have you tried to silence yourself and just listen to what’s going on around you? When was the last time you did that, not because you are just told to, but because it’s innate for you to do it?

Growing up with parents supportive of whatever I do, they kept listening and understanding my points of view and my continuous aim for independence. It even gets to the point of disagreements and annoying exchange of discussions, but of course, a calm end state afterwards. When our dad was hospitalized (and it wasn’t a simple flu or fever, ok), suddenly, the tables have turned. It was my turn to listen and to understand the situation and my dad, especially.

My realization was this: I, as their daughter, feel like there’s so much stuff to do and be pre-occupied. But just because your parents aren’t speaking up doesn’t mean they are 100% ok. In reality, when people get older, majority of them worry if they have still a lot to do upon retirement or if they are still viable in the society or if they will be left out. Though I know my dad isn’t vocal enough, I’m coming in terms to understand that deep inside he might have a worry or two about aging. Now and way forward, I will do my best to listen and understand what their thoughts are — to practice patience and temperance one day at a time, to put myself in their shoes decades along the line. Also, allotting some quality time with them — regardless if it’s a short travel with them or even the simplest doing-lazy-or-random-stuff  at home. There will come a time that I might still push and fulfill my intentions of working or studying abroad, but definitely, they will not be set aside. After all, I biologically came out from one set of parents only. And by then, at least I could say, I did something and I spent time…

God will always be greater than your problems…Let faith be bigger than your fear…

If this scenario could have happened years ago, I could have been a wrecking ball of mess. Years ago, I set aside the laity works in church and chose to be the usual Catholic to take time for things I missed out. The faith has always been there, but the relationship level with God somehow lessened…However, months ago due to recent family events last year, a friend invited and convinced me to attend to “the happiest place on earth”. During that time, I was in bits of doubt cause I have expectations and assumptions in my head that I might not be able to relate or it ain’t my cup of tea. But that one fateful Sunday as I left the halls of that historical venue, the mini-thought bubbles in my head burst. For some strange reasons, I felt different — maybe not in the exagg-visible kind of way, but it was a positive change for me.

Btw, before I forget, that happiest place on earth is called “The Feast”. I would love to share my experiences of being in it, but I’ll post about it soon as it deserves a separate post…I guess thru the short time that I’ve been attending there, it gave me a few different perspectives on challenges and life in general…One of them is my belief about God and the power of prayers — communicating to Him not only because you are at your worst, but because you know He indeed listens and He strengthens us…My perceptions on prayers suddenly took a turn during this trying time we had and I understand it now all the more…

You’ll never know what’s it like till it hits you…but the best part that I would love to share to you dear readers is this, quoting a song of my favorite artiste…”Things are gonna get better…We’re gonna be fine…”

**He was hospitalized twice this year due to hypothyroidism — the second one took him almost a month before getting home. It was the one that made him pass out — dropping sugar, potassium, calcium and sodium levels. It even took a toll on each one of us physically, emotionally, spiritually and financially — but when he regained his consciousness, it was one of the happiest days of our lives. To date, my dad was already discharged in the hospital and now recovering day by day at home. He’s starting all over again — regaining strength from eating, doing short walks inside the house, watching soaps and playing game apps. Honestly, he’s not at his 100% yet and we are uncertain as well if that can be achieved the soonest possible time. But for now, it doesn’t matter…Now, we appreciate the little or simplest things — there is the sense of contentment knowing that he got back and he’s still with us. For us, this is one of the biggest miracles and blessings we will be forever thankful to the Lord for. I know there will come a time every person will go thru the joys and pains, the winning and losing. What’s important now is we learned a lot of things the way the Lord wants us to learn it and eventually, to live it. And if the sad part comes again, I will cry but I will be forever grateful to the Lord for this second big chance He gave — to my dad for his second life, and to us for a chance of working on better things to each other and towards other people…I, myself, will be starting again in some aspects of my life, but I know the Lord, my family and friends will be there in my journey…Thus, I will be in a revamp process…which I will be working on in weeks or months time — so watch this space as I want you, my dear readers, to be a part of it (not just a plain reader anymore…) ^_^

So gotta conclude this now before everybody gets into the drama…I would just like to take this space to thank everybody — our family, friends, colleagues at work, fellow servers in church — who gave their time and efforts thru taking the time to visit my dad, giving financial help and hospital assistance to us for his confinement and medicines, including him and my family in prayers, comforting us personally. To all the staff of Philippine Heart Center, especially to Dra. Myra Torres, Dra. Myla Custodio, Dr. Fadrigelan and Dra. Yumul — thanks for taking care of my dad in every way possible…May God bless all of you! Hugs and love! Hope I get the chance to thank and meet you all again personally soon…Advance Merry Christmas as well! ^_^ 

#wanderlust a solo revisit years later — Malaysia

It took me a while to get back at my feet and my hands on this site…Got a bit under the weather for the past days, so here it is guys…This is just an intro nutshell of a recent pill to a wanderlust ^_^

Year 2008 — My mom and I got our very first out of the country trip, in the most unexpected way I thought of, winning an all-expense trip to an Asian city via a tv network. Six years later, I headed back to that place where my wanderlust out of Pinas adventure started. This time though, I ended up going on my own.

It took 3 years for me to keep saying to myself that I will plan to come back, but unfortunately, I (and surely along with the rest of the world) have the habit of procrastination combined with unforeseen circumstances in my life. Thanks to a piso-fare booked a year ago, some saving up, little research and the confidence to face unexpected possibilities, I headed to Malaysia last August during the Merdeka holidays. Just for quick info, Malaysia celebrates their Merdeka or Independence day during the last day of August and usually, the folks in Malaysia take this time to have some break from work and school. As for me, it was my time to get a break from close to a year stressing project and just explore.

As many might know already, the trip from Manila to Malaysia is just a 3 1/2 hour flight. Believe me, if you’ve got that wanderlust, the love for airports and setting foot on a different place gives a surreal exciting feeling (I even get goosies when I hear this “in minutes we will be landing at…”). So that 3 1/2 hrs is like…decades to me? Anyway going back, most flights are either Manila to Kuala Lumpur (mainland) or Manila to Kota Kinabalu (in the East Malaysia — Sabah area). Since I flew via low cost carrier, Cebu Pacific, I landed at Malaysia’s newly built KLIA 2 (known before as the LCCT, Low Cost Carrier Terminal). For the very loyal folks of NAIA #sorrynotsorry, but KLIA 2 exceeded my expectations of being the terminal for low cost carriers (shall share more related to these in my next posts).

and yessss...this is now their LCCT aka KLIA2

and yessss…this is now their LCCT aka KLIA2

Going back again (hehe ^_^), I rode the KLIA expres (a 30-minute train ride) to get to the city proper of Kuala Lumpur, the KL Sentral station. On my first night there, I was fetched by my long time online now real friend (hehe…cause she’s not just virtual now), Mia, at the KL sentral station to head to the place where I stayed, Cube Boutique Hostel. I arrived around early night time so I was just able to spend my first eve there eating dinner and unpacking stuff in the hostel.

KLIA expres on the way to the city...

KLIA expres on the way to the city…

The next day was a road trip out of KL to the Historic State of Malaysia, Melaka. It was a 2 hour road trip, but definitely worth waking up sooo early, with some sickness mode starting to seep in. Yes, announcement, I got sick again in the middle of my trip. Anyway, going back, there are bus trips from KL to Melaka and back. Just so happened my friend took me via her transport, which became a blessing in disguise for my end though. And of course, a short trip to Melaka won’t be complete without walks and eats.

early morn in Melaka

early morn in Melaka

the place where you can walk and eat...Jonker Walk (a little more deets on Melaka in my posts soon ^_^)

the place where you can walk and eat…Jonker Walk (a little more deets on Melaka in my posts soon ^_^)

Of course, a Kuala Lumpur trip won’t be complete without getting those feet roam around within the city. I did some revisits to places I stopped by 6 years ago such as Dataran Merdeka (Merdeka Square) and the National Mosque, after our whole day roundabout in Melaka. However, it was slightly congested in this area when we visited as some streets around the said spots were closed due to their Merdeka holidays.

you know when there are much visitors around...the way one takes a pic of the place...hehe --- Dataran Merdeka (Merdeka Square)

you know when there are much visitors around…the way one takes a pic of the place…hehe — Dataran Merdeka (Merdeka Square)

National Mosque

National Mosque

One of the iconic places in KL is the highest twin towers in the world — the Petronas Twin Towers. Completed in 1996 but officially opened in 1999, it consists of 88 floors on each tower connected with a skybridge on the 41st floor. However, it ain’t an easy task to get up in this awesome structure. Well, for one, you have to reserve online and pay 80RM to experience of seeing KL from the Skybridge and the peak part (86th floor). I would suggest that if you really plan to head there, book online in advance — less hassle in falling in line and minimizing the frustrations of not getting the chance to get in the Twin Towers. This structure is easily accessible via KLCC station (Kelana Jaya LRT line). Once you get off the train, you would be able to see the KL Twin Towers affixed with a mall on the first six floors called Suria KLCC (Kuala Lumpur Convention Center) while KLCC itself is in the first few floors. It may not be for adventure seekers, but it would be worth somehow of your 1 hour to pay a visit — being way up in the air minus the exertion of muscles and good for folks with fear of heights (like someone I so know…haha *wink*).

Skybridge at the 41st floor (damnnn...just covering up the fear *nailbites* hehe)

Skybridge at the 41st floor (damnnn…just covering up the fear *nailbites* hehe)

and that's when your entrance ticket could be of dual purpose...with mah friend, Mia...

and that’s when your entrance ticket could be of dual purpose…with mah friend, Mia…

looking below from up above...at the 86th (huwaaaatttt?!!!) floor

looking below from up above…at the 86th (huwaaaatttt?!!!) floor

Apart from roaming around, a visit to Malaysia wouldn’t be complete without two major activities (hypocrisy aside…haha) — eating and shopping. Traveling alone and having local friends of that country are really a good mix especially if you are on the semi-adventurous type when it comes to eating.

And who would ever miss out on shopping a thing or two? Bargain stuff or luxurious ones ain’t a challenge in Malaysia, especially in KL, cause you will always find shopping malls or market stalls to buy something to bring home. I was lucky enough to stay in the busy area of Bukit Bintang where malls and hotels / hostels are just a few walks away.

Malaysia may seem to be like our home or of the rest of Asia, but to me, I was opened to a different vibe. Their country’s uniqueness and union of mixed cultures energized me amidst my illness on that trip. I must say, 6 years ago, we were welcomed and blessed. 6 years later, I’m still blessed and welcomed, with no regrets of going back to this place…And no regrets of going back again soon…

Allow me to share a few more experiences from this trip in the next posts…This is just chapter one ^_^

inspired by travels...xoxo, Calai

inspired by travels…xoxo, Calai

ps. The interest of traveling never ceases to amaze me of how life is good, God is good, and what I can and should do in this life…More thoughts and tinkers ahead…Cheers and xoxo, Calai ^_^

#musttry The Wholesome Table

It’s no secret that Filipinos love to eat. From the adventurous street foods to the fancy restaurants and buffets, there’s no denying that food becomes our avenue to keep up with family and friends. However, there are still some things about food that we Filipinos should improve on — like munching out on healthy stuff. We maybe fed with much inputs about what and what not to eat, but translating it into restos or food stores catering to organic, healthy food still need to catch up. Good thing there is one adding up to the list — proving that healthy food doesn’t have to equate to bland, “blah” dishes. Right across the Bonifacio High Street Central is a resto serving organic comfort food called “The Wholesome Table”.

Owned by former tv personality – model now mom – entrepreneur, Bianca Araneta – Elizalde, “The Wholesome Table” offers dishes that may actually have been your typical dishes munched at home, but with organic and some locally grown ingredients. To me, the place seems to give you a vibe of what restos are like in New York. The setting is very quaint and cozy with nice interiors. However, expect crowded moments during lunchtime and dinnertime, much more you might event encounter celebs on your visit (but don’t take my word on this one). Just so happened that on our lunch visit, I saw Bianca and some very familiar visitors (IT Girls, Solenn Heusaff and Georgina Wilson) which I didn’t request for photo ops with them (respecting their privacy that time…kumakain kaya, hellowww?!).

Majority in their menu are to share, so I can personally say that they are reasonable. For starters, they have complimentary potato bread while waiting for your orders. Given that I just had lunch with a friend, we tried only a few.

potato bread with butter

potato bread with butter

Hearty Tomato Soup (160PHP)

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Chicken Parmigiana with Parmesan Fries (690PHP) — I loved how the chicken was cooked well and surprisingly, of a big portion. Not failing to mention that I heart their fries ^_^

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Plain Brown Rice (90PHP) — If you guys are ordering their to share dishes, better not go for the individual orders of rice (unless you are more of a rice-luvin kinda folk).

Be Dreamy (I would say this is one of my fave drinks in my list…It’s mango with banana and chia seeds) and Tickled Pink

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Despite that they are just on soft opening, they have already been creating a buzz in the blogsphere and social networks. Well, in a way, it’s not just all publicity. They are delivering what they can aim for — a healthy, good, wholesome food experience.

At the same time, this place also made me change my perspective when we talk about organic food. Some entrepreneurs sell their products or dishes in sky rocket prices. When you come to think of it, the rates should be generally fair or affordable for the masses because the produce are not being fed with fertilizers or feeds. These are one of the restos I’ve eaten wherein they don’t show too much fancy — just good, healthy food, simple but quaint place and good service. As I mentioned in my IG post, this place is really a keeper. Again, kudos to everybody in “The Wholesome Table” and to Ms Bianca Elizalde. So guys, though being a food critic is far from reach for me just yet, I’m saying this is a must try…

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ps: Thanks Ms Bianca for your sweet gesture of replying to a simple folk like me in IG. ^_^

The Wholesome Table
30th St Corner 7th Ave Bonifacio High Street Central, Taguig
(02) 867 0000
www.thewholesometable.com
FB: https://www.facebook.com/thewholesometable

#EtiquetteCheck On Attending Weddings

It took a while for me to get back tinkering on this page…Well, ‘vrybody’s gotta do more stuff at times.

Weeks ago, I attended a wedding ceremony of one of my friends and fellow fangirl. It’s actually a first for me to attend a wedding outside Manila (that I needed to ride a plane…and those close to me just know my excitement on heading to airports :D) and a non-Catholic ceremony. Just a little revelation — I’m not a big fan of attending weddings. I have nothing against it okay?! It’s something to celebrate and be happy for. I guess I just don’t have the feels cause: 1). there are just some parts of ceremonies I feel should be excluded in the modern weddings now, 2). whether you are a guest or part of the entourage, it’s costly, and 3). it ain’t MY wedding (no further explanations on this).

I must admit, it came to a phase in my life that attending to those are just too cliche for me…AGAIN, LET’S STRESS THIS, IT’S ME…So instead of being the wedding bomber – slash – event spoiler (cause I feel forced attending to it), I would skip and make the couple enjoy their momentous event. But of course, as they say, it shall pass and it did.

One more thing that makes me cringe (a bit) at times in attending weddings are the folks or guests who make themselves feel they are the stars of the event, whereas, it should be the couple — THE BRIDE AND THE GROOM, right? After a couple of weddings I attended to, it’s about time I share some guests forget or intend to forget — the etiquette…

How should or what should a guest generally be like in weddings??? Here are just the basics:

1. Be punctual.

Yes, even if you are not part of the entourage, this should apply to you too, dear guest. Unless you were caught in an emergency (and I know we are all mature enough, who are reading this post, to understand what really falls under emergencies!), be there on time. If you think you can’t make it on time in the venue for the wedding ceremonies, then just go straight ahead instead to the reception. Don’t make a scene of being the only person standing and walking straight towards the vacant seats in the church. That should only be for the movies and telenovelas.

2. Follow the bride and groom’s request — THE DRESS CODE.

For the love of our Supreme Being and the couple to be wed, please wear what they request on the dress code for THEIR WEDDING. Unfortunately, this is one of the most common broken rules in a wedding. I’ve been attending weddings that mentions a thing or two of the requested dress code in the invitations, but still there are a handful who can’t comprehend — either they intentionally didn’t read the whole invite or intentionally wanted to show off.

Guys and gals, I understand it might end you stashing that wallet to buy for new clothes, but I think this ain’t a good excuse anymore. It’s just a matter of being resourceful and creative. I wan’t to share an example from the recent wedding I attended to. My friend required the guests a dress code. The moment I read that, I was like “WHY OF ALL KINDS OF REQUESTS?”. What was that? Hmmm…something that I’m not used to or even my friends aren’t used to seeing me wear it — NO PRINTS. For my family, friends and colleagues, I’m more of a person who wears prints and bright colors, especially for dresses. But for the love and support for the newly weds, I just worked my ways to find a dress following their dress code (but still to make me fashionably ok) with less than 1500PHP. I just said to myself, I am sure they had reasons for it. And true enough, they did because their entourage were dressed with prints. Good thing, I followed.

Ok, there won’t be a fine or fee if you don’t follow. But following doesn’t just make you show your love and support for the couple you are gonna attend to, it also shows how you as a person follow or understand instructions (gamit gamit lang ng brain minsan ^_^).

3. The one thing majority of Pinoys still don’t abide to — Call or Inform for RSVP!

Seriously…majority of Filipinos don’t give a damn of a few minutes to notice and to act on this part in an invitation. It’s as if a part of their eyes were closed or their hands covered this.

For the benefit of everyone, RSVP is a abbreviation in French for “respondez s’il vous plait” (“please respond” in English). When a wedding invitation indicates this with a contact number, it means please take a few minutes of your time to confirm that you are attending the wedding. Does it matter??? HELL, YES!!! Why??? Let me tell you.

Gone are the days when the couples and their parents invite almost anybody their eyes would see or neighbors they even haven’t had a close encounter with to celebrate with them. Nowadays, it is costly to have a decent church wedding (majority of my wed friends can attest to this) unless you have super major sponsors or you are uber rich. Couples now limit the number of guests to close relatives and friends. Confirming that you will attend not only will help them budget their wedding well, but also is a sign of RESPECT to the couple that you wouldn’t drag other people along to add up to their cost.

The last one I said is the one that annoys me in wedding events. I mean, ok, you should be generous to share your joys to other people. But c’mon, let’s not abuse the fact we are invited to drag along folks. The next time you see an RSVP with a contact number in a wedding invitation, PLS RESPOND AND CALL THEM…

4. Respect the wedding ceremony by simply being silent.

I’m sure we are not enclosed to having friends with the same religion as ours. There will come a time we will be invited in a wedding ceremony of a different religion. That doesn’t give us an excuse not to be a chatterbox or do other stuff to kill time and boredom in ceremonies.

Again, respect their way of doing union for the bride and groom…How? Keep quiet if you can’t relate. Pray in silence for the couple, as simple as that. Well, you wouldn’t want your friends to make a scene in your own wedding too, right?

5. Eat decently…regardless.

Should I seriously elaborate on this? Hell no…Maybe a few simple statements — Fall in line properly if required. Don’t eat in a manner as if there’s no tomorrow, so others can eat too (every guest deserves it, right?). Well, I haven’t attended a wedding that caused mayhem when it comes to eating. But, there are just some guests whom you would see their attitude and level of thinking in a matter of minutes, by simply being impatient to get their food and eat or by simply piling up all food in their plate like the Tower of Pisa. Ok, I would understand if the ceremony is held in provinces cause there are some wed couples who intend to invite the whole village. But if in a hotel or a classy venue or resto? Hmm…some reality checks, please.

Sad to say, if people get used to certain behaviors, this might not be easy. But if we try to tweak those actions one wedding at a time, the actions will eventually lead to good habits. I hope in the next wedding ceremonies you will attend to, one or two of these might help. It doesn’t require a college degree to be of proper etiquette in events like these, self control and discipline will simply do.

Who knows, you who’s reading this post might bump into me in one of the wedding events I will attend to, or perhaps, in my own wedding? ^_^

credits: getupkids.net

credits: getupkids.net

#insight Unplugged (What the Facebook Hiatus Has Done…)

I mentioned weeks ago that my own simple way of observing the Lenten Season (apart from the praying and reflective activities) is to abstain from Facebook…Just like any other person who is starting to create a habit, I had the fair share of being surrounded with temptations to not finish my weeks’ pursuit. However, Holy Week is here and just days away till Easter Sunday, so this would be an easy get-go for me.

For the past few weeks, I’ve come to think that if for some they can’t live without logging in Facebook, how come there are also those who even don’t have an account in there and yet survive? Now that motivated me all the more to keep abstaining for the site. But did it help me or did something nice to me in a way? Well, since I’m sure most don’t have an idea, let me share to you the ways…

1. Time Management

Ok, some of you would say, yeah sure…it’s like you don’t spend the whole day logging in Facebook. Hmmm…True. But let me ask you, how many times in a day does a user go lurking, sending a message, posting photos and status messages, liking posts and photos and commenting on them? This is considering that anywhere one goes now, the thing is “Do you have free wifi?”. If we multiply the number of times a person spends in it to the number of minutes spent on it, that could have been an ample time spent for other activities. Somehow, the hiatus made me spend time on other stuff like reading, blogging and even sleeping more.

2. In Focus / Concentration

Admit it or not, getting hooked in social networking sites sometimes distracts us in our work or important activities. We can’t help but open that FB account and go lurking once in a while, but at times, it leads us to lurking some more. Before we know it, our boss is calling us already for what we need to work on for the day. We even try to minimize the window so our bosses won’t see what we are doing in between workloads…The hiatus made me move away from the FB addiction and just concentrate on the things I need to do (of course, sleeping is an exemption to that).

In addition, not just a way to focus on the daily grind, but even on the non-work related things I need to deal with. Being online in FB leads one see the status messages or updates of their connections. In a way, it is nice because you get to be updated. However, one can’t help but compare how far you have progressed from others in various aspects. No matter how many times we say or hear on quotes of not comparing yourself to others’ lives, but FB indirectly affects us.

3. A step higher towards healthy lifestyle

It has been proven so many times in the news that getting hooked much on the internet, gaming and other related stuff can cause weight gains, poor eye vision / eye strains and long-term diseases due to immobility. Before the hiatus, I used to check on my FB account either after office hours or weekends / holidays. Lately, it may have just been a few weeks but now it lead me to less munching while in front of the computer and less eye strains. It also improved a bit of my sleeping habits this past few weeks (though there are still in between sleepless nights, due to work…grrrr). The hiatus made sleep earlier than usual on weekdays and go on power naps on weekends (when I’m just at home).

4. Connecting folks — direct and/or essential

True enough that social networks helped us in a way to communicate with family and friends who are across the miles or whom we haven’t seen for years. However, for our other connections who are just a few streets away or within our vicinity, networks become an excuse not to move around and enclose ourselves in front of that box. Relationships aren’t built by merely words and lip service. It’s more on the moments and interfaces you make with people. The physical presence and the efforts of taking time to be with loved ones will always matter more than virtual connections. That’s what I learned from this hiatus.

5. An added dash of optimism and motivation

This actually sums up what the previous items can lead to. If those listed are what we become or learn, this is what happens in effect. Instead of being bombarded with hate or opposing comments or thoughts or rumors from other people, it lessens the possibility thru making self a step away from this social network. No need for much explanation in this area, but sure enough, it will eventually lead to this path.

True enough, social networks can make or break a person depends on how one will utilize it. Thanks to these technologies, we can now communicate to anyone, anywhere in the world. It helps bridge the gaps of distances, but it can also break hearts and relationships, if abused or misused. There are days when I wanna log-in and update a bit of me. However, I must admit, there is now also a part of my social-networking-junkie-in-my-system that wants to step back on the Mark Zuckerberg founded site. There’s also that side of me that starting to feel that I’m soon to outgrow the fondness that Facebook is giving to most of its users. It may look like an introvert’s move to anti-socialism, but let me emphasize that I’m just choosing and preferring to eventually be a sensible social networking individual. There are other avenues wherein I can express myself with collective thoughts that would make people relate or inspire, rather than simply sharing updates.

In this plight, I’m not sure for how long I would try to keep having a personal FB page and soon deactivate it. Maybe if I would maintain one soon, it’ll be for my blog or for a business I might work on in the near future. For now, to all my connections in Facebook who might be taking their time to read this, let’s keep ourselves updated.

And to add, in observance of the Holy Week Triduum (Holy Thursday, Good Friday and Black Saturday), I will be unplugging myself from my other social networking sites (Twitter, Instagram and even here in WordPress). This is just my online detox moment…Besides, though it should be a daily habit, it’s the period of setting aside everything and offering time for the Lord without complaints or questions.

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To all my fellow faithfuls around the world, may you have a blessed and meaningful Holy Week Triduum ahead and advance Happy Easter!

Temporarily signing off…xoxo,

Calai